Christ’s Love vs. the Church’s Condemnation of His Children

It isn’t a secret that I have a difficult time reconciling my love for Jesus Christ, as well as His undying love for us, with the hellfire and brimstone teachings we often grow up hearing from pulpits across the nation. Let’s face it, it was Christ Himself who beautifully and brazenly pissed off all the

When Honesty is NOT the Best Policy

Of course, I always promote honest and open communication in every relationship, especially the one you have with your committed, loving partner. That said, you may be surprised to find me promoting the idea that honesty is not always the best policy when it comes to the bedroom, and I’ll explain why. When Honesty IS

5 Types of Intimacy Necessary to a Successful, Loving, Sexual Relationship

When clients come to me looking for a better sex life with their partner, one of the first questions I always ask is, “How is your intimacy together?” All too often we are quick to equate intimacy with sex, meaning penetrative sex itself. But, what is intimacy really?

An Introduction to Temperature Play [an o.school streaming webinar]

Creating heightened sensory experiences through temperature play can be extremely erotic if done properly. In this previously recorded webinar stream, sex educator Micki Allen gives an intro to temperature play. Temperature play is when you introduce a bit of heat or cold into your sexual activities. It can be a form of foreplay or the

Help for Now-Adult Children of Divorce

If you witnessed divorce as a child yourself, you may have seen things you shouldn’t have seen, heard things you shouldn’t have heard, had to bear burdens children should never have to bear. According to US statistics, most of us witnessed divorced as children¹; and not only that, but many of us as current adults,

What if You Stopped Praying that God Would “Fix” Your Husband? [a guest post by Arrettres Hollins]

Sometimes when we are going through things in our marriage, we are completely focused on what is wrong with our husband. We go to God with lengthy prayers about what he needs to do to fix our husband. We rehearse his flaws, what he has done wrong. Sometimes, we even give God a timeline and

What Churches Get Wrong about Sex

God does not hate sex. Let me repeat that just so there isn’t any confusion. God does not hate sex. You may be wondering why I am opening with this line. Well, I’ll tell you why. Almost everything I learned from well-meaning Christian adults led me to believe that God hated sex. And not only that,

Facts about Masturbation

For the record, masturbation is totally natural — and yes, it is “normal” to masturbate, whether you’re sexually active in a relationship or not. Thanks to modern science (by way of 3-D imaging ultrasounds), we have proof that even unborn babies touch their genitals in utero. Whether or not the unborn touch their genitals for pleasure

What is Intimacy and Relationship Coaching?

What is Intimacy and Relationship Coaching? Similar to life coaching, intimacy and relationship coaching is a process that aims to assist clients by helping them to work towards and achieve their personal and/or relationship goals. Unlike a general life coach who may assist their client with organizational skills or weight loss, a coach who focuses

Oh, My God: Sex and Spirituality

Faith-friendly. Sex-positive. Shame-free.